Getting her back after a breakup is tough challenge.  You made mistakes, you lost her, and now you’re in a tight situation.  You don’t know how to proceed. 

You love her and you miss her and all you can think about is getting her back in your life.  Question is, will she take you back?  She may or she may not but it doesn’t mean you have to lose hope.  If you really love her and you think she’s the one for you then here are a couple of truths you need to face.

Truth #1 Your approach can increase your chances

You never wanted this breakup to happen but here it is.  You don’t want to let her go.  In fact, every fiber of your being wants to make her stay.  But she made her decision and now you have to be okay with it.  Or rather, you need to ACT like you’re okay with it.

Of course you’re hurting but if you make the effort to be okay with her decision, then she’ll appreciate it.  Also, she may be expecting you to break down and lose it completely.  She definitely was not expecting you to let her go and that will rattle her a bit.  In other words, you may still have a chance of getting her back.

Truth #2 There is no definite time to win her back

Some would say it will take you a month to win your ex back.  But what they failed to mention is that every relationship, every situation, and every person is different.  

There is no exact number of days that will bring your ex girlfriend back to you.  It will take time and patience.  Nagging won’t work and neither will begging.  You can’t have a time limit and say “alright, 30 days are up.”  It’s all about timing here.

Truth #3 Cool-off period is important

Experts say that the no contact rule is important and they’re right.  You’re both given time to heal emotionally and gather your thoughts.  Sometimes you just need a break and you will have the time to really reflect on what’s happened and how you can fix it.

With that being said, avoid calling your ex all the time.  You can’t heal or miss each other if you’re always pestering her with your calls a few days after you broke up.  You never know, if she really loves you then she may also be thinking of ways to get you back.  Maybe she just needs time and you will ruin your chances if you don’t respect her space.

Truth #4 Telling her you love her may kill your chances

Most guys would tell their ex “I love you” in the hopes that she’ll come back to them.  But quite the opposite can happen.  She might go out with other men because she’ll think that if it doesn’t work out then she can always come back to you.  She will take her time getting to know a particular guy, compare him to you, then maybe try to decide if she’ll come back to you or stay with him.

As mentioned, getting her back is tricky.  You don’t want to push her further away but you don’t want to lose her either.  You need to play your cards right and let her go for now.  Don’t do or say anything that will ruin your chances.