Trying to get back with an ex?  Are you feeling sad and miserable because your ex left you?  Did your relationship just ended and you were left devastated, unsure of what to do?

Not to worry because it is not impossible to get back with an ex.  All you need to do is follow a few simple rules.

Rule 1: You need to be certain

Listen to your instincts.  Yes, you love your ex and you want them back.  But you also need to be sure that the feelings you and your ex had for each other is genuine.  Don’t try to get your ex back for all the wrong reasons such as being good in bed or you think you look good together.  If you’re right for each other, then this breakup is nothing more than just an obstacle you need to overcome.

Rule 2:  Keep your distance – for now

Others make the mistake of contacting their ex immediately after the breakup.  When emotions are running high, then this could be disastrous.  Your ex will likely hang up on you or scream at you.  Worse, it will make you look weak and pathetic because you will end up begging them to come back to you.

Rule 3:  Agree to the breakup

As mentioned, begging and pleading is not very attractive and it will tear your self-esteem to shreds.  What you should do instead is agree to the breakup.  The breakup is the last thing you want but if you agree to it, your ex will be caught off guard.  They’re expecting you to fall apart but instead you showed strength in character.  In a way, you’ve impressed your ex with your composure and maturity.

Rule 4:  Reconnecting with your ex

Of course, you can’t stay away forever.  If you think enough time has passed and you feel calm and confident enough to call your ex, then do so with caution.  Try sending your ex a message first because if you call them, you might end up stuttering because you got so nervous.  If you send your ex a message first, then you can practice and think about what you want to say.

Rule 5:  Understand the reasons for the breakup

If you did something to drive your ex away, then obviously you need to apologize.  But you also need to understand the reasons why the two of you broke up.  By doing so, you can really learn from your mistakes and you can focus on how you can change or fix the problems.  That way, when the two of you get back together (yes, let’s be positive here), then you can steer clear of those problems.

Rule 6:  Remember special occasions

It wouldn’t hurt to remember special occasions such as birthdays.  If you wish your ex happy birthday, then that would be bonus points for you.  Your ex will know that you haven’t forgotten about them.  It’s a good way to reconnect as well.

Now remember, if you want to get back with an ex, then make sure that you try to follow these rules.  You also need to give it time and try to take it slow.  Be patient because you can’t force your ex to come back to you.  You need to respect their space and show them you care through subtle gestures like remembering their birthdays or showing them you’ve changed for the better.  If you do, then little by little your ex will start to notice you again.